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social ships / being yourself / "just be yourself"

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Updated: Apr 28, 2024

i definitely need to edit alot of the default+ai generated stuff 😅 on the site but when i have the time to..


for the “non believers” of ?horoscope? etc, sure you can skip a portion of some parts.. (well i dont thnk i blindly believe everything back then since being a “leo” it didnt resonate greatly … until i dug horoscopes “deeper”/the full horoscope chart…)

in singapore we have our birth times printed on our birth cetificate/apparently it aint any sort of common prac all over the world..


so leo sun, libra uprising & sagi moon with mercury mars venus in virgo and the “capricorn” era..


going to uni in 30s and ended up not working full time meant i had the time to dig stuff all over the internet, especially also due to covid era where more stuff is even more available online


yeah libra uprising + asian culture = people pleasing from young till end 20s and i call it survival skills


then realising that doesnt serve me/doesnt work/doesnt align with your mind/body/soul and then digging up the horoscope stuff

everything felt 4K or ultra HD whatever.. (not being in touch with "yourself")


anyway/so ive been ok to make friends anywhere everywhere probably thanks to the libra, sagi & leo sides where im just oh so enthusiastic to learn anything everything about others.. lol


though internet psychology related may say that it is becos we werent understood when we were young


i agree but i also stand on the horoscope stuff aka innately we are like so.. / like ive always been interested in different cultures/how others do things/how other parts of the world does things etc (i guess part of it is also learning there's more than 1 way to do something and it depends on the restrictions etc)


so anyway i recently concluded with a friend that out of 10 people only 1-3 “last”/stand through time


hopefully it isnt that only 10-30% are genuinely good people 😅


well. i obviously did continue being friends or friendly or making friends under my 30s becos i just was in a mindset of survival skills and factually


you really dont have to try to fit in

or you dont really need to convince people to like you


it isnt about you

it is about very individual preferences


anyway to anyone who thinks i did anything “bad” and not “owning” up. honestly it is the opposite… people pleaser dont wanna burn any bridge. yes people pleasing is considered manipulative but that was survival skills 🤷🏻‍♀️.

also, it was more of going against very deep down beliefs and still trying to make everything work

i was on the sacrificing for nothing aspect becos well mom also taught me to be kind and inculcated that insistently


like yeah ikr

you being kind to everyone ≠ kind to yourself


haha oh i definitely did call people out as a young kid or etc aka doing the “right” stuff BUT well those days things came back at me instead 😂🔫


meaning in whatever ways some things can come at me

even though now as an adult ish i see that i din do wrong

but in those days. what i did aint considered acceptable



so i obviously just decided to save my braincells but tire myself by people pleasing survival mode until 30s im like wait that isnt working entirely in my favour & definitely the world is changing. haha. the horoscope era really explains that


excuse you. people even classify by the era stuff so what makes you think horoscopes aint any logic

(and it isnt me who finds it logic. lots of friends were like yes yes that i get it/they aint the sort who wanna convince others so… and especially nobody wanna sound like some weird brain to talk about horoscopes that deeply “normally” 🤭😂😅)


well so in 30s i be reflecting alot abt the past and how the whole horoscope chart deeply resonated lots of behaviours 🙃 and it is weird that it aint any magic when friends do mesh well. becos when i browse the charts and so much on the horoscope is similar. it really isnt rocket science… 🙃


lol yeah if i ever have a chance to work HR in my life id just be like hey could you give me dob and time and ill just flip it out to understand stuff 😂


of all friends that ive extracted info from, only 1 didnt seem to be similar or anything like the chart


but asking. i guess it is more of supportive family since birth, allowing self to develop. it is interesting.



yeah word of advice/point of this post is indeed “just be yourself” but yes, dont do 💩 and dont be 💩 / take no 💩, do no 💩.


thats at the least what internet has been saying too - be authentic/genuine/in touch with your self becos i guess even in 20s i was still questioning so which is myself. and now in 30s after learning johari window in sch i figured that. you can still always “learn” new stuff about yourself. well. via new experiences/activities. 👀


and of course how you mesh with others or learn about someone else through doing activities

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